Fear

Like many of us, I got complacent, accepted things for the way they were, accepted the bare minimum, accepted mediocrity, accepted lies, and accepted fakes. 

There’s a fear of changing everything you know to get everything you want. 

I’ve let fear of change lead me in life for some time. I don’t know when I became that person, but I let fear take over and control me. I know that I needed to harness it in a way that I could use it as power and motivation. Don’t let people pump fear into you. People who do that are typically ashamed about their own lack of initiative and motivation. Always believe you can do great things for you. Those people who aren’t supportive do not need to be part of your journey. Let them drop off and wallow in pity and self-doubt.

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do. --Eleanor Roosevelt

Failure

You get into a situation and you see red flags and sometimes even you might be part of the red flag. You may just put them aside or are hopeful they aren’t as bad as they seem. Time goes by; days, weeks, months and sometimes years. Sometimes those red flags don’t manifest, sometimes they do. You might think to yourself, I saw this early on and should’ve took action. You might’ve been hopeful that they would’ve become green. Sometimes life is just like that and maybe that’s where the hard lessons are learned. It makes me hopeful to move forward. We all make bad decisions and time is a valuable commodity but if you can walk away from the bad to get to a good place, then you’re heading in the right direction. 

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” - Thomas A. Edison

the dream

Sometimes you come to me in my dreams. Sometimes I see folks that have crossed my paths. Sometimes I see what could’ve been. Sometimes I wake up before my dream ends. I think of our past and sometimes wonder if that was a dream. The happiness, it was real. The sadness, it was real. Sometimes I think about what happened what could’ve changed, what could’ve been different…and then I wake up from the dream and remember, the past is gone and all I have is the perception of the past, of the feelings, of the lost, of the gained, of the regret. The time we can’t get back, but we have to keep pushing as long as we are beating…we can still have dreams….they can still come true. 

"Our truest life is when we are dreams awake." Henry David Thoreau

It’s ok to quit.

If you feel under appreciated, under utilized, not motivated, beaten down, underpaid, you can change. Like anyone, I’m human. I’m guilty of staying in bad situations that no longer serve me or are emotional, physically or psychologically damaging. Maybe I stayed out of loyalty. Maybe out of stupidity. Maybe both. I think we all are in some way creatures of habit, but it’s hard to notice the red flags and damage after that routine becomes so engrained. Try and know the truth over the lies. Try to recognize genuine over fake. Remember your time is valuable. It’s valuable to you, your friends, your family, and your significant other. If it doesn’t matter to people you are near, stay away from them. Sometimes folks will want to make themselves seem like the big fish in a small pond as a show of power; that’s not someone you want to be around. You want someone who can be entrusted and engaging with you. Not just pumping their own successes up. There are some people and groups that no matter how much you do, how much better you make things, how much you sacrifice or how much you achieve, they will always push the goal posts back cause that’s how they get rocks off. They have little power outside of that respect so that’s their “fun”. Be around people who prop you up and support your growth instead of being an anchor and weighing you down. It is not called quitting when you leave a situation that no longer serves you. Your self worth and emotional well being are worth more than that. The world is a tough place but you can win when you’re fighting for what’s best for yourself and those you love. Come to the realization that some situations do not deserve you. Believe you’re too good for a bad situation. Believe me, even Hell has a back door. 

 

 

Resolve

 It is ok to not be strong to get through something. It is a process. It is a flow. It is going through you. You can't really stop it. It will not go around you because it is in your heart and in your mind. You can block it out, but it will return. This is life. You can fill your head up with positivity, but you need to focus on that positivity. Know that even in the darkest times of life, there is something to be thankful for. We are all on this journey and while we may get off at different exits....we are all coming and going in this life. Take the time to be sad. Take the time to resolve the concerns in your head. Don't give up on yourself or those around you; they may need you more than you ever think they do. Don't let people's opinions or criticism get inside your head. What they think of you or your situation is not gospel. Stay on the path, well, stay on it as long as you can. It is ok to leave sometimes and wander. It is ok to go different places mentally or physically; stay there if it helps you feel better. Return when you can. Life will be waiting.

Do

 "Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do." -Oprah Winfrey

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