It’s ok to quit.

If you feel under appreciated, under utilized, not motivated, beaten down, underpaid, you can change. Like anyone, I’m human. I’m guilty of staying in bad situations that no longer serve me or are emotional, physically or psychologically damaging. Maybe I stayed out of loyalty. Maybe out of stupidity. Maybe both. I think we all are in some way creatures of habit, but it’s hard to notice the red flags and damage after that routine becomes so engrained. Try and know the truth over the lies. Try to recognize genuine over fake. Remember your time is valuable. It’s valuable to you, your friends, your family, and your significant other. If it doesn’t matter to people you are near, stay away from them. Sometimes folks will want to make themselves seem like the big fish in a small pond as a show of power; that’s not someone you want to be around. You want someone who can be entrusted and engaging with you. Not just pumping their own successes up. There are some people and groups that no matter how much you do, how much better you make things, how much you sacrifice or how much you achieve, they will always push the goal posts back cause that’s how they get rocks off. They have little power outside of that respect so that’s their “fun”. Be around people who prop you up and support your growth instead of being an anchor and weighing you down. It is not called quitting when you leave a situation that no longer serves you. Your self worth and emotional well being are worth more than that. The world is a tough place but you can win when you’re fighting for what’s best for yourself and those you love. Come to the realization that some situations do not deserve you. Believe you’re too good for a bad situation. Believe me, even Hell has a back door. 

 

 

Resolve

 It is ok to not be strong to get through something. It is a process. It is a flow. It is going through you. You can't really stop it. It will not go around you because it is in your heart and in your mind. You can block it out, but it will return. This is life. You can fill your head up with positivity, but you need to focus on that positivity. Know that even in the darkest times of life, there is something to be thankful for. We are all on this journey and while we may get off at different exits....we are all coming and going in this life. Take the time to be sad. Take the time to resolve the concerns in your head. Don't give up on yourself or those around you; they may need you more than you ever think they do. Don't let people's opinions or criticism get inside your head. What they think of you or your situation is not gospel. Stay on the path, well, stay on it as long as you can. It is ok to leave sometimes and wander. It is ok to go different places mentally or physically; stay there if it helps you feel better. Return when you can. Life will be waiting.

Do

 "Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do." -Oprah Winfrey

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grand

Remember to love yourself. You're worth it. 

There is one spectacle grander than the sea, that is the sky; there is one spectacle grander than the sky, that is the interior of the soul. –Victor Hugo

Love and Loss...Epictetus

Two millennia ago, the great Stoic philosopher Epictetus (c. 55–135 AD) argued that the antidote to this gutting grief is found not in hedging ourselves against prospective loss through artificial self-protections but, when loss does come, in orienting ourselves to it and to what preceded it differently — in training ourselves not only to accept but to embrace the temporality of all things, even those we most cherish and most wish would stretch into eternity, so that when love does vanish, we are left with the irrevocable gladness that it had entered our lives at all and animated them for the time that it did. 

 When we are able to regard what we love in such a way, Epictetus argues, its inevitable loss would leave in us not paralyzing devastation but what Abraham Lincoln would later term “a sad sweet feeling in your heart.” To retain the memory of love’s sweetness without letting the pain of parting and loss embitter it is perhaps the greatest challenge for the bereaved heart, and its greatest achievement. 

 

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/epictetus-on-love-and-loss-the-stoic-strategy-for-surviving-heartbreak?utm_source=pocket-newtab 

Control

Imagine you are about to take your last dying breaths and you realize you argued over things you have absolutely no control over. That’s not living, that’s wasting....time.


“The smart way to keep people passive and obedient is to strictly limit the spectrum of acceptable opinion, but allow very lively debate within that spectrum....“ - Noam Chomsky