Sometimes I wonder if the true human essence is being able to feel pain or being selfish enough to feel that pain, contain it and spare the masses the heartache of what you felt. I guess pain wakes us up and alerts to how human we really are inside. I don't believe pain will always make one enact change, but it sure does make you want to change that moment. If for a second, minute or hour, you don't have to be there feeling what you felt. If you could, you would remove yourself from the way you feel and how hurt you are at that moment.....but if we remove ourselves do we ever feel better about the next time we encounter such a situation?
I guess, sometimes, in certain situations, you just can't avoid the possibility that you may get hurt. But at least appreciate the possibility that by getting through that hurt you have grown that much more as a person having experienced your personal tragedy.
I guess I want to throw out a canned statement and say "what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger", but being strong doesn't mean you can't be sad for a few minutes, a few days, a few whatever. It's your personal time. Do with it as you may my good pal. :-)