Never let someone define the person you aim to be in life. Define yourself to others and make efforts to be the person you want to be. Too often I see people believing in what others perceive or see in them; and that's just not supposed to be the case. Look in the mirror and ask yourself "who am I and who do I want others to see me as?" You may struggle with the answer, but only you know. This one time while I was doing an internship (aka collecting and distributing faxes to adults), I was really giving the guy I worked with a hard time. Making fun of him, his friends, his family, even his parents. So he looks me right in the eye and says, "Bob, I know why you're making fun of me. It's because you're insecure about yourself. So I'm okay with that. I know the more you make fun of me and my life, the less you like yourself...."
With that statement I turned around in my chair and shut up pretty quickly. It was quite the truth at that time and that guy and I became really great friends over the years. Today, I am impressed with the person he has become all the while still being that corny intern from Jersey that used to help me have a great time in an otherwise boring and mundane job.
Here's to you Faxboy. Cheers to the good old days!