It's interesting when you call people out on something you both know is true, but yet when you discuss it can never come to an agreement. I mean, my sister said to me last night "you always want to be right! you always need people to agree with you..." I know why she feels that way, but I don't believe it to be true. I mean, if you make a decision that everyone tells you is wrong, but you feel is right, then maybe it's right for you. I think that we influence our own decisiosns, but that in the end, they are a mash-up of our morals, our passions, our options, our parents, and what we believe to be society's rules....or lack there of.
Someone recently reacted to a decision I had to make. The decision was made and afterwards things had to be different. I stated that this would be the effect. So how can someone still be surprised when you warn them of the consequences of their decisions? It's like, you tell them what's going to happen, it happens, and then they're surprised about how things are afterwards. I just don't get it. Maybe it's that whole control thing I spoke about a few weeks ago. Controlling the situation is enjoyable to some people..Being controlled, not so much.
I guess maybe if people feel they can control the situation that they can control their emotions. I'm not quite sure.
As the years pass I find myself having a little bit of both worlds in situations. A little structure, a little control, and a lot of freedom to be myself. I think when you can be yourself it lets people see the most beautiful things a person can offer. I feel sorry for those people that can't be who they really are because they constantly make excuses for being stuck in a bad situation.