I went and saw a movie this weekend. It was called he’s just not that into you. I had a feeling that it was the proverbial “chic flick” but was pleasantly surprised that it turned out to be a very contemporary movie that resonates with the 21-34 generation. The myspacers and socially-inept dynamic group that includes “texting” as a personal trait. There were a lot of situations in the movie that hit close to home. It crossed over a few different types of relationships. The single guys and girls, the new relationships, the marriages, the soon to be over relationship. I don’t want to go into the whole movie, but I agreed with a few things the actors said during the course of the movie.
One female character said to a male character that he had spent so much time being single that he forgot what it was like to want to love someone, but that she was a lot closer to finding someone than he was.
In another part of the movie, a character said he couldn’t be remotely close to happy if you (his girlfriend/fiancée) aren’t happy.
I can agree with both statements. People don’t realize how truly happy they can be when they’re involved in something that is so pure, so innocent, so positive and so exciting. Trusting someone with your feelings is never easy to do. As humans, we seem to want control over everything. I think feelings are something that we can easily lose control over when we let them get in the wrong hands. When I say wrong hands, I have to explain. I know everyone thinks that the people that we think my care the most about us have good intentions; it’s not always the case. What I say is that you get back what you put in.
This past weekend I through the rules out the window. When convention may have told me that what I was doing was wrong, I still did what I wanted. I even had a hard time getting in the cab and telling him where to drive. I was nervous walking into the bar, but it was one of those times where I knew what I wanted to do and I didn’t care about crossing over the right-wrong lines. I didn’t break any laws. And I didn’t damage any property. But I took a chance and I turned out to get exactly what I wanted out of the night. And that’s not always the way I choose to live. I usually respect a situation or what people tell me, but sometimes you just get tired of putting your happiness in the back seat for the sake of not stirring the pot. I may not go after something I want. I may wait for things to develop, but on this night, I just felt like I didn’t have time to waste pondering about what if’s? What if’s will never be answered if you do absolutely nothing.
Could I be any more vague about what happened? I guess I’m respecting a person’s privacy, so think what you will.
My point here goes back to a line in the movie. The general mantra of the movie’s main character. If someone wants to see you, they will make an effort to see you. If someone wants to be with you, they will do whatever it takes to be next to you. Get my point? I recently heard a story of some guy that blew some girl off to do his taxes. That could have been the worst excuse regardless if it was a lie or the truth. Taxes man? Come on now. Take the girl out!
I don’t know. I guess people could say that I think we have all the time in the world. I don’t think that which is exactly why I took fate into my own hands and changed what was going to happen. It’s ironic….we will go after careers we want. We will go after material items we want. We will go after that new look we want. We will go after that new scene we’re looking for. So what the hell? I guess sometimes the rules out the window and go after that thing that makes you smile.
Whether things turn out the way you want in life, it’s really great to live in a good moment. If you’re alone or with someone, it can still be something to cherish.
"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved." -William Jennings Bryan