Friday, February 13, 2009

last call

Well, it’s Friday. Even though work was difficult this week another weekend is once upon us. I don’t know what it is, but getting out of work on a Friday afternoon is just as exciting as the last day of school. I know it may sound childish, but around 4:45 I get that “butterfly” feeling in my stomach. Like, “I wonder what everyone’s up to tonight?” A past girlfriend of mine used to say, “You always want to be out and with everyone and having fun.” I thought this was a stupid statement. I think you can have just as much fun with a huge, raging group of people as you can with a few of your closest friends.

I miss the days of college when me, the principal, the police officer, and the slob would ham it up for hours in 620, my apartment. Maybe you’re like me and you always smile when you think back to your college days or days you spent living in some random city with new and exciting friends. All that innocence and chaos thrown into a place that you started to call your home away from home.

So yeah, it’s Friday and yes, I want to see what people are up to. I like meeting new people just as much as I like spending time with people in my life. It’s amazing what you find out about yourself when other people tell you what they think about you. Even if it’s not always good, it gives you a chance to grow as a person and develop into a more well-rounded person. Me and my sister L always butted heads when we get on the topic of what we think about each other. I guess that’s why I love her and admire her to no end. She’s never been afraid to tell me that she didn’t like this or that about me. And I think people these days hold back on telling the people they care about what they think about them. I guess it’s one of those things like damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I know L loves to speak her mind and I know she says it with care. I mean, I would have to believe that anyone who lived with 4 sisters in one room knows how to compromise, so maybe it’s not her, it’s the people around her who can’t compromise.

We’ve all had to compromise things in our lives, but I guess none of us want to compromise in a way that we know is basically against social norms or basic rules of society. We’re all bound to some loyalty to the ethics or morals or lack there of that we’ve grown accustomed to, right?

Someone recently made the statement “well, yeah, I wonder if you’re ever going to grow up?” I didn’t take offense to it because the person said it in a way that was both thought-provoking and endearing at the same time. My question back to her was “does being married and having children qualify me as growing up?” She kind of stared at me and said, “well, not really”. The point of those sentences is that while we could all easily have settled down with anyone, none of us wants to compromise our expectations on what we see as an ideal partner. And I think that’s great. I have four younger sisters and I always tell them that they deserve the best. And really, every girl does. I’d say the same for the guys, but well, being a guy, I’d say that some of us don’t deserve to be walking around with princesses on our arms.

I guess people will say that a person like me never wants to settle, but they’re wrong. I want to settle for the happiest I could possibly be. I don’t see anything wrong with that. I said to my friend LC last night. The games have changed, so you gotta change your playbook up. I then brought up S’s blog and said see what this girl says? She appreciate the speed at which dating progresses these days. And I said to LC, you can either be quickly in love with someone or quickly not in love with someone. Either way, its gonna keep moving. Just keep up and you’ll be fine.

You’ve heard of the term keeping up with the Joneses. Well, in relationships, you don’t have to keep up with anyone. Just follow your heart and you’ll be fine. If someone makes you feel good about yourself keep going back to that. If someone doesn’t make you feel good go away from that. I know it sounds so simple and I know that it’s not that easy, but you get the idea.

I’m feeling good about this weekend…..see you out in the city.


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